Archive for July, 2008

Obama-Oprah, O8

Monday, July 21st, 2008

I don’t know - maybe it’s just me, but could this be the winning ticket?…   Everybody gets to speculate, right?   And since the Bible says  a person’s  gift will make room for them, I’d say Obama owes Oprah, certainly for the Democratic nomination and especially if he becomes our next President.   So maybe her gift will make room for her on the Democratic ticket.

Thanks to Stormie for putting my political pondering together for me.  

We better keep watching: www.barackobama.com, www.oprah.com   O-goodness. O-my.   O-brother.

 

Previous blog post, same subject.

A Fascinating Family

Monday, July 21st, 2008

I cannot help it – the Duggars fascinate me.   I feel like a voyeuristic intruder when I watch a Discovery Channel special about them, like I am somehow violating their 17 children by just looking at them agape, my  jaw hanging low.   But I guess they are OK with it.   It probably helps pay some bills, so maybe it is OK for me to do my part.

Jim Bob and Michelle (he would have to be “Jim Bob,” wouldn’t he?) have 17 children and are expecting another in January 2009.   Michelle’s womb is certainly fruitful and probably worn out, too, but they just keep populating the earth with Godly seed to beat the band.

My brother, Joe, via my Uncle Donald, recently sent an email forward with photos of the Duggar family and their home and lives.   It caused me to go back and check out their website, a place I have been on several occasions and once again, speechless, I shake my head.

I really love their house, which I believe was 2 pre-fabs “glued” together in the middle, had professional designers put it together and possesses that which I covet the most – quote from their website: “Not your ordinary in-home central vac system, but an extensive Wet/Dry vacuum system that reaches carpet, tile, concrete, upholstery and most other surfaces. It boasts a full power commercial-style carpet & hard surface cleaning system, just like the pros use! We have the optional car detail kit which allows you to vacuum & shampoo vehicles in the garage. From quick spill cleanup to daily cleaning, the Aqua-Air Wet/Dry is truly a life-saver!”  

Yes, hmmm.   But in looking at  pictures of their home  again today, I realized I would need all 17 children to help me keep it that clean and sparkly.

They are very organized and seem like a very genuine, loving family – very open about their faith in Jesus Christ.   The Today Show  reported that when they made an appearance there, after the 19 of them left the green-room-waiting area, it was cleaner than when they got there.   They dress alike a lot just to keep the laundry simpler and they have both a “pretty,” more public kitchen and a “utility” kitchen that looks like a school cafeteria – which is nice, I guess, since they home-school and wouldn’t otherwise get to experience that brand of “fun.”

 

See lots more pictures here – http://www.duggarfamily.com/photos.html

I came from a family of  5 children (in a forced “outward appearance of holiness” church background) and had 5 of my own (not subject to those “look peculiar” religious rules).   I remember when I was pregnant with my 5th, a lady in the mall began chiding us for bringing another child into an over-taxed and dangerous world.   We were young enough to stand there and take it, then.   I wouldn’t now, but my blessed life speaks for itself.   I am surrounded by a loving and ever-growing family (5 “original” kids, plus 3 married-ins, plus 5 grand kids and just getting started!) and I know they are my heritage and blessing from God!   That lady in the mall?   No way she is enjoying her life as much as me.

But having seen TV specials about, for instance, the Dionne Quints and how media coverage and people’s nosiness hurt them so much, I do worry about the Duggar kids and what it is like for them to be looked at like puppies in a store window, watched with curiosity, paraded about for entertainment’s sake.   I hope they will somehow be protected from the negative press and that the Discovery Channel won’t be airing “Duggar Kids Gone Wild” someday, broken children striking back from being American oddities.   I hope they’ll become all God has intended since He  first began to fashion  them secretly in the womb.   I hope they each know they are more than part of a curiously large crowd.   Unique, special, individuals – and part of the much larger family of God.

But still, for me, fascinating…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF:Don’t judge.   Don’t stare.   Pray for them occasion-calling each child by name.   Pray that if they should ever wander by this post, my public pondering would not be hurtful…

pictured: The whole family, currently; around the table during Bible time, note the drink station where another family might place a beautiful buffet; the main living area of the house; the “pretty” kitchen; boys dorm-style bedroom; girl’s bedroom; laundry room

Chapter Ten: Planning for the Journey

Monday, July 14th, 2008

Observations of The Sacred  Romance – Drawing Closer to the Heart of God (by Brent Curtis and John Eldredge) among a few friends.   We hope you’re being blessed as we process and confess and that you’ll let us know what you are thinking, too…  

See Amy Jo’s contribution from a few days ago here.

Chapter Ten: On the Road

Here is what Jeanie had to say:   Amy Jo selected quotes from these chapters and we must very nearly have underlined all the same words in the book, me here in Brighton – she in Broomfield.   You can link to her thoughts and writing about these chapters above.

Timid, I never raised my hand in school to ask questions.    And that is a whole other blog.   But in the past few years, I have realized what a disability it is not to know how to ask a good question.   It has limited me in so many ways, as I have done everything the hard way and from scratch rather than learning from other people’s wisdom and understanding.

“…what is God up to in all this?” the author asks about a hurtful situation he once faced, recounted on page 147.   And that hit me as a really well-put question, one that could serve me well as I go forward.   He says, “In fact, the process of our sanctification, our journey, rests entirely on our ability to see life from the basis of that question.”    The writer  continues to explain that our lives aren’t a random series of events, but are part of a Divine Story with meaning.

That resonated because about 3 weeks ago, God engineered an emotional “meeting” between me and a painful past memory.   I could not understand why it came up or where it came from or why I had to even be dealing with it now, but I faced it and ask God to do any further healing and continued to choose walking in forgiveness.   Then a couple of days ago, as I was repenting of some sin and of  the taking, or receiving of   insult/offense and asking God why on earth I allowed that into my heart from a few random people (the ones that make you cringe when they walk in the room), He took me directly back to the painful, past memory-the one I had chosen to forgive and felt total wholeness in and showed me how they were related.   He exposed a vulnerability I felt many years ago, and how I’d taken a martyr’s or victim’s role with abrasive people  due to  the incident in my formative years.  

There isn’t room or time to give full explanation here except to say – there have been people who are in my life from whom I have withheld true relationship and have allowed myself to play a victim to their abrasiveness, rather than to see them as God sees them and to see myself as the blessed non-victim that I am.   I  have been  hurting them.   I  have been  hurting me.   And while it was very easy to make them villains, I could’ve told you stories to get you on my side, God wants me free and when He allows these things to come up (“the nits”)  and the slightest offense brings an unequal reaction like salt in a paper cut, “hurt feelings” or not, you have to know God is in this!   I am going to be referencing that question much more in my life: What is God up to in all this?

Heather

Chapter 10 from Heather:   Wow—this is a great book! It’s sooo intense, that I will need to read it again, and possibly re-read it. It’s done sooo much for my heart, and yet, I am still feeling raw and exposed. It’s not terrifically convenient, but even as the unattractiveness of my inner self is uprooted, I am finding His peace right there walking me through it!  Thank you so much God!

 

“The Journey” is a very appropriate title for this chapter, because at this point you do have a choice…Are you going to begin this journey with Him, or stay stuck in your smaller story? On page 144, it says this: “Entering into the Sacred Romance begins with a decision to become a pilgrim of the heart. As Gabriel Marcel reminds us, the soul is a traveler: ‘It is of the soul and of the soul alone that we can say with supreme truth that “being” necessarily means “being on the way” (en route).’”   “We are,” he says, homo viator, which means ‘itinerant man’ or woman on pilgrimage. The choice before us now is to journey or to homestead, to live like Abraham the friend of God, or like Robinson Crusoe, the lost soul cobbling together some sort of existence with whatever he can salvage from the wreckage of the world. Crusoe was no pilgrim; he was a survivor, hunkered down for the duration. He lived in a very, very, small world where he was the lead character and all else found its focus in him. Of course, to be fair, Crusoe was stranded on an island with little hope of rescue. We have been rescued, but still the choice is ours to stay in our small stories, clutching our household gods and false lovers, or to run in search of life.”

 

I really love that passage. I know that my journey through this life is a pilgrimage. I know that means I cannot possibly know what lies ahead of me. I know that can be scary, (if I let it be). I hate being fearful though, so I really need to rid myself of everything that hinders my relationship with God so that I can walk in the peace that passes all understanding. I also know that I am en route. I look back on my life and say, “Thank you so much God that I am not who I was then!” In my mind’s eye I see God smiling down on me as a father would, knowing that while I have made some progress, I’m far from done!

 

“Is anyone in charge? Someone strong and kind who notices us? At some point we have all answered that question ‘no’ and gone on to live in a smaller story. But the answer is ‘yes’—there is someone strong and kind, who notices us. Our Story is written by God who is more than author, he is the romantic lead in our personal dramas. He created us for himself and now he is moving heaven and earth to restore us to his side. His wooing seems less wild because he seeks to free our heart from the attachments and addictions we’ve chosen, thanks to the Arrows we’ve known.” Pg 147-148.

 

This is what mends my raw and exposed heart. That little excerpt sums it up. As I’ve read through this chapter, God has actually begun to reveal my “attachments and addictions”.   More than one exists, and I am deeply saddened to say I’ve gone to them many, many times, before seeking Him. In trying to work through this book I have had to face so many unattractive qualities about myself, it’s weird how I am not in a corner crying over my own depravity. Oh, wait, I think I did do that at one point! All that to say, this Romance is truly what I’ve been looking for. I want this journey, and I just keep asking Him to uproot the things that are deep that keep me from Him.

 

The question is asked at the end of the chapter, “What is all this for?” This response puts it into perspective: “Jesus said that when a person lives merely to preserve his life, he eventually loses it altogether. Rather, he said, give your life away and discover life as it was always meant to be. ‘Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, my way, to finding yourself, your true self’ (Matt. 16:25, The Message). Self-preservation, the theme of every small story is so deeply wrong because it violates the Trinity, whose members live to bring glory to the others.   The road we travel will take us into the battle to restore beauty in all things, chief among them the hearts of those we know. We grow in glory so that we might assist others in doing so; we give our glory to increase theirs. In order to fulfill the purpose of our journey, we will need a passion to increase glory; we will need love.”

 

Amazing. What more can be said, other than, “I am willing Lord!”

 

Candi

 

Candi is still working on her responses.   They will follow…  

 

Who knew this book would take us all summer?…Jeanie

 

Today’s Garden Checklist

Monday, July 14th, 2008

6:10 a.m.   Late for my meeting with God.   Made some coffee and  curled up  on the swing in the cool of the morning.   We talked.   I looked around and saw the beauty.   Made a mental checklist of things to be done in my “extra” couple of free hours today.   Refreshed and awakened sweetly.

Averi\'s Annaheims  Kids in Pool

7:00 a.m. Time in the Word is time with the Word.   Today, I felt like listening to Max McClean read the Bible so I could just soak it in while I did a little watering.   Listened to some Ephesians and meditated on  Psalm 119 several times (go to  www.biblegateway.com click on “Listen to the Bible” select your passage and let the “washing of the water of the Word” cleanse your soul…).

8:00 a.m. Made my checklist for this morning:

  • Spread manure in corn “field”.   It isn’t a true “field”, of course, for I live in suburbia.   But I dedicated one of my 4′ x 4′ beds to as much corn as French-Intensive gardening will allow.   We’ll be blessed to get 36 or so ears of corn out of it, but I want the grandkids to experience corn straight off the stalk and into the pot.   They say corn begans to lose its’ sweetness within 8 hours of being harvested.   One of my fondest memories is the summer I stayed with my relatives on a farm for a couple of weeks.   At lunch time Aunt Donita would say, “I’ve got the water on.   You kids run to the field and get yourself some corn.”   And my cousins and I would all pick what we wanted and throw it in the pot when we got back.   Then we’d gather around the farmhouse table where there would be a big plate of real butter and we’d just roll our ears of corn in it, add some salt and lots of pepper and MMMmmmmmm.   This was lunch everyday.   And it was God and it was good!
  • Harvest the sugar snaps.   It’s getting late.   They are trying to make seed, so the pods aren’t very long and not quite as sweet as a couple of weeks ago, but I am loving them in salads and even the morning omelet.   Peas are the gardener’s candy.   I’ve grown regular peas, but hated the de-podding.   I have grown snow peas, but but missed the fat fruit.   Sugar Snap peas are the best of both worlds: you can stir fry with the pod intact as it is highly edible, too, or de-pod and let the little green spheres pop pop pop in your mouth!   Gemma discovered them last night and loves them, too!
  • Tidy up patio areas and toys from last night’s pool party.   The pool is up finally!   It is just one of those inflatable 15′ x 3′ deep backyard sorts, but on a hot afternoon?   Heaven on earth!   Steph & Tris and the kids came over.   Tredessa was here, too.   I was sad when they went home.
  • More water in the pool.   Getting the little ones used to it slowly.
  • Harvest lettuce.   So pretty!  
  • Photograph Averi’s garden sign and fertilize her chiles.   I hadn’t gotten on the chile-pepper level and was surprised to find, through the camera lense, that Averi has about 6 green chiles growing away.   This is her first, and obviously already successful, gardening experience.
  • Water the grass-seed patched areas. You’re suppose to do this in April, but grass germinates in 48 hours this time of year.   Each summer, I tend to what the crazy dog has destroyed.   It is amazing how quickly grass recovers in those little patches!
  • Water pots and veggies.   With the Colorado sun, you have to do this everyday!
  • Re-pot Stormie’s Zinnias.   The library gave her some cheap seeds. They are growing beautifully in Miracle-Gro potting soil, as most things do.
  • Gather purple Celosia volunteers for Tara, pot some up for myself.   Last year’s giant pot of Purple Celosia apparently blew far and wide throughout the garden for there are small, but very happy seedlings in almost all pots, whether welcomed there or not, and in the garden beds.   I’ll probably have to uproot and toss most, but I put a nice container together for Tara (who will be arriving home from a week in New York City today) because she loves her flower gardening, too, and I made myself a big pot.   It will go on the tree stump near the fence on the east side where it will peek through and be colorfully framed by the yellow and profusely flowering Potentillas.   No muss, no fuss.
  • Get garlic chives under control!   If you’ve bought one container of garlic chives, you’ve bought a hundred!   Those little boogers are seeders, extraordinaire!   Which is nice, really.   When I go to the grocery store and see the little “gourmet” containers of herbs and chives, etc. that they sell for $2.99, I try to calculate the value of said spices and herbs in my own yard.   One day I determined I had at least $98 worth of chives, $30-some worth of sage and $60 or so worth of a few different types of oregano.   Makes me feel rich!

9:15 a.m.   Finished with “chores” in the yard.   Time to spare.

Breakfast

Pool-time, I am thinking…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF: Soak up a few rays before Heaven Fest (12 days away…), with proper SPF protection, of course.

pictured: the pool through some lilies and holleyhocks; Averi’s garden marker (it is suppose to be a chile roasting in fire – I am no artist!); Tre and the Kelley kids yesterday; breakfast this morning – a baby zuchini and sugar snap peas sizzling in the skillet  in some olive oil with salt and garlic, mm, mm, good.

Does this look like a comb-over to you?

Friday, July 11th, 2008

I hate having my hair in my face.   The further away it is, the better I can breathe.   But the current bang trend is to part from the side of your head and comb it over to the other side.   I have made fun of nearly bald men for a very long time and now I am using their trick-sort of.   I cannot go the whole distance like some of my friends and daughters who do the swoop so well.

 

Meanwhile, see these cute pictures of my great friend (and the Heaven Fest HR Director), Stefane, who has single-handedly restored me to my first true love: big hair.   Last weekend, this glamorous Texan and her good-looking husband, Wrex,  manned the booth at Bandimere Speedway to spread the word about Heaven Fest.   She is our best advertisement!   LOVE the photos, Stef!

Stef has a great “comb-over”…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF:   Get a haircut before HF!

Bouquets of Lettuce

Thursday, July 10th, 2008

I have harvested my first two baby zuchinis (or is it just ‘zuchini’)?   They are dark green and beautiful, small and perfect.   And remember, people, if your neighbor or “loved one”  brings you a giant zuchini, bigger than your thigh – it is an act of passive-violence against you.   No zuchini should be allowed to become Jabba-the-Hut.   Read my previous warnings here and here.  

No, a zuchini should be gently pulled from the vine while the skin is tender and unblemished.   It should be delicately sliced on the diagonal  and tossed in extra-virgin olive oil, seasoned carefully with kosher salt and freshly-ground pepper, maybe some Mrs. Dash or garlic powder and then grilled to barely-past-crisp, when  it has sweetly  carmelized where dark grill lines have formed.   Succulent!

All five tomato plants are fruiting away.   I can’t wait to show Gavin the handfuls of grape tomatoes that have formed while he’s been vacationing.   I doubt many will make it into the house with his mad love for the tomato (a boy after his Nonna’s heart).

My first hibicus flower of 2 large shrubs appeared today.   They are a few weeks late, but I see thousands of buds.   A couple of years ago as I was going through my life’s lowest point so far, I would count the hibiscus flowers that appeared each day as a sign that it would get better.   I needed something those dark days to bring hope.   I remember the “7-hibicus-bloom” day.   Then there was the “12-hibiscus-bloom” day.   It seems silly now, but it was the touch point for me, then.   It finally increased to hundreds of blossoms and I was indeed healing.  Seeing them again now reminds me.   God is good.

   

The grass is happy in July!   The daylilies are blooming madly each day, and starting over the next.   The Asian lilies are standing tall and proud and the hollyhocks are a spectacular sight.   When I picked a handful of some chartreuse leaf lettuce for Sesame Turkey Roll-ups for lunch, is was the perfect “bouquet” so I put it in water in  a vase to enjoy on the counter until I am ready to wash it and eat it.

 

There are 2 large robins that are swooping my head daily, so they must be hiding some eggs somewhere in the yard.   They truly have no fear of me and while it creeps me out when they swoop from behind and I suddenly experience the wind from their wings on my face, yesterday they came right at me face-to-face,    while I innocently sat on the swing.   I actuilly ducked and they flew so close, as if playing “chicken,” then swooped at the final moment – right under the top bar of the swing  inches from my head to, I assume,  make their point – whatever it is. (?)

Stormie says it is like the Seinfield episode where they make a thing out of Elaine’s big head because birds were flying into her.   Hmph.

I am meeting God very early in the garden these days.   You should try it, too!…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF:   Make friends with the robins.   If this fails, take dominion.

pictured: zuchini, bouquets of lettuce, a couple of my “flower girls,” Averi and Guini

17 days until you know what….

Wednesday, July 9th, 2008

http://kxwa.wayfm.com/   Check out this radio station website – nice, huh??

 

It occurred to me I had never mentioned the Cardboard Campout that is part of Heaven Fest.   We’re gathering up to 500 people to raise a minimum of $100 in support to sleep under the stars with only some cardboard and duct tape.   They’ll be fasting and praying and we hope to raise a lot of money to go towards Mayor Hickenlooper’s Road Home Project, which is doing a great job of getting homeless people and families off the streets of the Denver area (with a 10-year plan to end homelessness http://www.denversroadhome.org/.

We still have some openings avaiable if you’re into social justice and feeding the poor and stuff like that.   It is a GOOD cause!   www.cardboardcampout.com

Gentle Cords, Bands of Love

Tuesday, July 8th, 2008

Hosea, a book recording the repeated unfaithfulness of Israel to God, also  reveals a God who woos and draws and pursues with a permanent, tender and unfailing love.   He even uses the language of a marriage covenant:

“I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me

In righteousness and justice, in lovingkindness and mercy;

I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness,

And you shall know the Lord”   (Hosea 2.19, 20)

How can we refuse a faithful God’s offer to know Him like that, to really know Him?   He further promises us:

“I drew them with gentle cords, with bands of love,

And I was to them as those who take the yoke from their neck [burden lifter]

I stooped and fed them.”   (Hosea 11.4)

Last night as our our worship and prayer time wound down,   the sun  having just set over the mountains, while splashes of hot pink and brilliant orange still dotted the sky, my friend Cheryl Rios popped a song in the CD player.   The music  fell freely out into the summer’s night air like a beautiful ribbon blowing in a gentle breeze.  

It seems a fitting response to a God who has drawn us with “gentle cords and bands of love…”   The gift was His love through His Son, but he tied it all up so beautifully with ribbons of gentleness and love.   Here is the song* I am singing today…

http://gracegrace.com/worship_player.swf

May it be a sweet sound to my loving God…Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF: Continue this “Summer of Love and Worship” after Heaven Fest, offering my song of praise…

 

*”Give You My Praise” by Grace Williams, www.gracegrace.com.    Sunset photo is a Google.com image.   It is similiar to what we saw, except that ours was reflected on the water, double beauty!

The Office, A Summer Fix

Monday, July 7th, 2008

You can watch mini “webisodes” of The Office at this site:

http://www.nbc.com/The_Office/video/nbc_off_web_101_20060712.shtml#video

It is pretty much just an episode that never aired cut up into tiny chunks, but they are ever-so-welcome morsels of fun for this dry, Office-less summer!   These characters are my people.   I believe I have worked with every one of them.

Last week Tristan posted this youtube of Gavin (4) and Guini (2) re-enacting the scene of Jim and Dwight and the Altoid/Pavlov’s Dog Experiment.  

In the actual The Office episode, Jim and Dwight are shown working at their desks when Jim’s computer makes that “bell-sound” and Jim says, “Oh, I have to re-boot, again.   Hey Dwight – do you want an Altoid?”

Dwight snears at Jim, “What do you think?”   And reaches for the mint.

Then they shoot Jim in the conference room explaining, “In school, we learned about this scientist who trained dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell by feeding them whenever the bell rang.   So, for the past couple of weeks I’ve been conducting a similiar  experiment.”

They cut back to the co-workers at their desk and the little computer bell going off and Jim asking, “Dwight-want an Altoid?”   Dwight says, “OK.”   This happens several times until finally,  the little bell sound happens  and Dwight automatically reaches out his hand.

Jim asks, “What are you doing?”

Dwight, looking confused: “I, I don’t know.   Oh, my mouth tastes so bad all of the sudden…”

Jim looks at the camera, satisfied his experiment has worked.

Guini is “Dwight,” her hair parted just like his, but she couldn’t manage being rude to Jim, played by Gav.   Everytime he’d give her an “Altoid,” she’d say “thank-you” very brightly.   So-here is Gav and Gunin’s take, as taped by their father  for their mommy’s birthday.  

 

Two New Blogs in the “J” Section

Monday, July 7th, 2008

me and Jovanie

My daughter-in-law, Jovan, just started blogging.   Check it out:   http://jovanrhoades.wordpress.com

And concerning Jovan, yestrday during church, I read a revelatory scripture that so applied to her and I.   The background is that I grew up saying I wanted to have eight boys, no girls-just 8 boys,   After having 4 girls and only one boy, I would kid that Rocky was so “all-boy” God knew he was all I could handle.   Then yesterday, as we were finishing up a series from the Book of Ruth (which I believe should have been called the Book of Naomi, ha!), I read this (Naomi’s friends were celebrating the new grandson and the restoration God had brought Naomi, calling her to praise Him for it):

“For your daughter-in-law, who loves you, and is better to you than seven sons…”

And this is true.   Jovan loves me and I love her.   And God has revealed without a doubt that she is better than seven more sons would have been.   She is better.

Julie

And, Julie is now blogging.   I have only spoken with Julie in person one time, but we have a lot of connection both through common friends and spiritually.   She is a young pastor’s wife with a strong heart after the things of God.   I’m impressed by her commitment to raise her children for God, for His intent for their lives and for choosing a surrendered life.   I think you’ll like her heart, too.   http://surrenderedandsurrounded.blogspot.com