So, it turns out that when a husband feels shamed or thinks his wife is blaming him for something he really can't control, his body is flooded with cortisol, a stress hormone that has awful side effects - like making you fat and more stressed.  Wives get horrid cortisol rushes if they think their husbands are yelling at them or ignoring them or really doing anything they think is threatening their "love connection."

A cortisol rush is something like the sudden shock of sticking your finger in a socket.  It's followed by a burned out "down time," like the after-sugar-blues crash (imagine eating the entire box of Krispy Kremes: ZOWIE!  Then - ohhhhh…I-cannot-believe-I did-that misery).  A cortisol hangover can last for hours in men and for several days in women.  My husband is probably reading this and thinking - yes, I knew it takes her longer to get over stuff.

There are a couple of choices, then I guess:  treat each other with common kindness and respect.  Husbands, love your wives like Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.  Wives, be a woman worthy of respect, trustworthy in everything - including with your husband's heart.  OR treat each other badly and buy a lot of Relacore.

Make love, not fat.  Blessings, Jeanie

NOTE TO SELF:  Remember to tell Dave how much he means to me by my actions, not just my words.