A friend of mine has chosen to believe that about people. Even people who let her down, or worse. She steps back, assesses the sometimes blazing damage done to the relationship in a fit of chaotic immaturity, when some one has lied about her or accused her of something or stolen from her or disrupted the peace in her life. And she decides to see it this way,
“They’re doing the best they can, most people are. They didn’t mean to cause all this damage.”
I had a meeting today at the coffee shop with a really young woman (really young) who brings light into every room she enters. I was giving advice from the much travelled and loooooong road of my life to this dazzling “younger woman in the faith,” to share my experience in hopes she’ll avoid some of the distractions and missteps I’ve made.
We got to talking about Jesus {great topic, huh?}, the way He dealt with people, how He saw them. He just went around “doing good and healing all who were oppressed.” He talked to the outcasts, and He dined with society’s most hated. He set the sinful on fire with forgiveness, conversed intelligently with the rich and powerful and dealt gently with the poor. He told good stories and drew crowds. He touched blind eyes and deaf ears and people everywhere wanted what He could give.
But He didn’t entrust Himself to people’s whims and opinions and judgements. He didn’t allow people’s actions or words or acceptance or rejections to sway who He was and why He came. He didn’t let His love die out based on the things they did, “for while we were yet sinners…” He didn’t “entrust Himself to them,” or as one translations says, “He did not entrust His life to them.”
John 2.23-25 Amp. “Now when He was in Jerusalem at the Passover feast, many believed in His name [identifying themselves with Him] after seeing His signs (attesting miracles) which He was doing. But Jesus, for His part, did not entrust Himself to them, because He knew all people [and understood the [superficiality and fickleness of human nature], and He did not need anyone to testify concerning man [and human nature], for He Himself knew what was in man [in their hearts—in the very core of their being].”
And yet, and perhaps because He understood humankind and the all the ways we are quick to judge and condemn and criticize and withdraw – in spite of the fact that He could truly see people for who they were and what they were about, He loved them. And that love led Him straight to the cross for the these same (fickle) people, and you and me.
Sometimes we are moved to jump straight into the amazingly good and messiness of relationship because of love. But something untoward happens and we emerge wounded and shredded and torn up and surprised and mad and vowing we’ll never do that again. People let us down. Sometimes people do worse. Sometimes we’re shocked they could treat us so badly “after all I have done for them.”
But I bet the problem was us (don’t ask me how I know). Sometimes we entrust ourselves, giving power to others and their opinions and wishes; we give away a part of ourselves when it wasn’t a required part of just loving them. Then we’re disappointed, we’re ticked. But parts of own hearts are out there walking around in some one else’s possession – and we have let that happen. Of course we’re wounded – they possess what we gave!
If Jesus had done relationships like we do, He’d probably have been pretty ticked off at us as He hung on the cross. But He’d kept His heart intact. He loved people. He did good to them. He blessed them and forgave them and healed them. But He kept His heart whole and healthy, whole and holy – strong for the mission. He remained wholehearted. And so He was able to show the ultimate love. He is love.
Like my friend reminds me, “People are doing the best they can.” They’re probably not actually trying to be the biggest jackwagons in the world, probably not trying to ruin your life, not meaning to let you down or disappoint you. They’re doing the best they can and when they know to do better, they usually will.
Know how I know? ‘Cause that’s what you do. And me, too. We are all just doing the best we can and learning as we go.
Oh, to be like Jesus…
“…looking unto [fixing our eyes on] Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12.2
Thank you so much for this I received in my email today. It came at just the right tinme. If you are one of those peo[le who say, “If I can just touch ONE person wiuth what I have tosay, well, then my life has been worth living”. It touched mine today. I am a 57-year-old fairly decent looking woman andI had a left brain strojke last week about tghis time. I LOVE Jesus and I am born again, but did I EVER NEED thios.m I am requesting prayersn from everyone. Just form a GOD-BUILT human fence around me and foorce out all who have been out to trhy to stop my faith, rob from me or who think just because I am not ttyping or walking as good asa I did last week I’m an idiot. I need ONLYnChrist loving and Christs WORDS in my mind right now. I love you all and again, THANKbYOU from thge bottom of my heart for tghis writinbg. I loved it. Donna Ashworth – Palestine, Tx
Oh, Donna, thank-you for sharing. I am praying for you right now, for complete healing and may the peace that passes understanding be yours right now, too! God bless!
“He didn’t allow people’s actions or words or acceptance or rejections to sway who He was and why He came. He didn’t “entrust Himself to them,” or as one translations says, “He did not entrust His life to them.””
SO good. I need to remember these words SO often!
Did you notice you already inspired much of the whole post, anyway??? :)
Great post, Jeanie. REALLY GOOD stuff.
Love this Jeanie!
Reading this later.. and yet it is just on time. Was thinking on whole heartedness this morning. So timely. As I try to understand and ask him to help me be a whole-hearted believer. Thank you for your lovely inspiring posts.
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