I remember way back in the day when my favorite bumper sticker and mantra was “Hang up and drive!” That was a long time ago and I have pretty much conceded that people are going to talk on their phones and drive even if they are endangering my life at the same time and I should just shut up about it. That is just the risk I take by leaving the house. But technologically-powered discourteousness is making me crazy!
Since when is every single possible person who might call us more important than the person with whom we are having a meeting, or lunch, or coffee? Yes, there are emergencies. There are super-important business calls that you must take or lose your job. There are reasons to occasionally take a call when you are with other people, but is your entire life really that much of a crisis? Must all the time I spend with you be listening to conversations you are having with other people? Yes, it was really great to get to catch up with you, while I listened in on all those other calls…
AND-please do not schedule a meeting with me with one of those ear-phones hooked up. I cannot stand finding out that the reply you just gave me was a totally different conversation with some one else and that you had disconnected from our conversation without so much as a ringtone or an “excuse me.” Yikes!
Don’t get me started on call-waiting. I have loathed it for as long as I can remember, especially when some one calls ME and then takes other calls. Are you kidding? And after 20 years of enduring it, I have never known one horrid emergency I was put on “waiting” for, not one.
Texting in public is the newest way to be rude, to “whisper” something in front of other people. Remember the old saying “Secrets don’t make friends”? Now it is “Texting doesn’t make friends.” Unless, of course, you’re the friend getting the text.
My son-in-law, Tristan, told me that the new business protocol says to look at texting like doing a crossword puzzle. If you’re in a situation where it would be inappropriate to do a crossword puzzle, then it is also not the right time to be texting. That would include a job interview, a meeting at work, and when you have set up a time to hang out with a friend, for crying out loud! It is the newest way to scan the room for some one better to talk to. Lately, a lot of people are doing crossword puzzles while they are talking to me. I fantasize having them over for an evening of me doing Sudoku.
I am not totally without a sense of humor about this. Just mostly.
Text Messaging is Rude by Rick Reyes
These things: ignoring people, paying no attention to others, taking no notice of people close by, disregarding, overlooking, discounting, turning your back on people, snubbing, disrespecting, being indifferent, being disdainful, neglecting, being bad-mannered and acting indecorously – these are all rude, whether you are doing it the old-fashioned way or using the latest techno-powered gadgets to accomplish it.
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I have to agree with this. We’ve added another thing as parents to have to teach our children. I won’t allow Hunter to bring his cell phone or other gadgets (ipod, gameboys, etc.) when we are going to be with other people and I’ll have to teach him about how disrespectful it is to do it in conversations, at school, etc. (If he EVER gets these=))
Dave and I sat in a meeting/getting to know some people one night and their daughter had her Ipod in one ear, scanning through songs and her keyboard cell phone texting people and was trying to talk to us as well. It was so weird and pretty disrespectful!
I agree whole heartedly. Oh wait, I just got an instant message. People should be your focus. Hang on my cell just rang…. I’m back. Where was I? Oh yeah,People should be your focus when you are talking to them. Oops just got a text. I gotta reply, We’ll talk more later.
I totally agree with you!Sometimes I think we would be better off without all this new technology. But I do have to say the cell phone is great to have in an emergency.
I completely agree… AND? I find it unbelievable that we have to have Etiquette for Business Meetings posted because people do these things at their place of employment, as well. Seriously… Sudoku? I think we’re kindred spirits, for sure!
Are you saying that the reason you don’t know how to operate your cell phone is on purpose?! :)
I COMPLETELY agree! It also kills me when people go to a store, or place of business, and stay on the phone! AUUUGGHH! There is no way the call is that important to not say “hello” back to the cashier and devote complete attention to them, as we demand them to devote to us. I’m probably on the opposite spectrum of using my phone. My dad jokes that I use it as a pager- and he’s right. :)